I used to always use the age of 25 as “full-time adult”. As if that would be the age that I would have it all together. Then I turned 25 and quickly moved that age to 30. Ha! That’s not to say that I didn’t have it together when I was 25, but not to the extent I thought I would. Christina and I got married when I was 26 (she was 25). We soon after moved to Phoenix and started our lives as a married couple here in the desert. So, to some, it may appear that I did in fact have my life together in my mid twenties, but it wasn’t until I turned 30 that it hit me.
Turning 30 was interesting. For one, it was the day we moved into our house. What is more adult than buying your first house? I’m not sure, but if it’s the most adult thing you can do, then my 30th birthday was the day I “had it all together”. I was the “full-time adult” I thought I would’ve been at 25. More importantly though, it was the first year I felt comfortable to be the age I was. I feared turning 30. It was a scary sounding age, but when it happened, I felt calm. I knew it couldn’t be altered or retracted, so I embraced it with open arms. It felt good to look back on my twenties and feel that I’ve learned a thing or two about myself. I felt like I actually had some tools to use moving forward. I remember sitting on the living room floor of our new home, Christina brought out my favorite chocolate cake with the “3” and “0” candles lit, Henry cuddled by our laps, and there was no other place in the world I wanted to be.
So here I am almost two years later. I’ll be 32 in November, and I wonder what I’ve learned? Do I really have it all together? I don’t know if I do or if anyone does, but I can tell you with confidence that I feel good with where I am at in my life. I’m comfortable in my own skin, and I’m having a much easier time living in the present rather than looking at an age in the future in hopes that that version of me will have the answers I’m currently looking for. Setting goals is definitely important, but it’s all the learning that happens along the way that really make the difference. I don’t know if by 40 my life will match up with my dreams, but I hope I look back at these current years and realize I’ve picked up a lot of new tips and tricks for the future.